Today’s question is: What’s with people not making kids accountable for their actions?
Background: This weekend I took the girls to a girl scout sleepover at a YMCA camp called Camp Duncan. We had a little incident while there. Let me explain…..
It was raining. It was cold. It was
totally kinda miserable. But the girls had fun.
We had poncho’s to keep dry. I had an umbrella too because I had my glasses on and I didn’t want them all dripping with water. I’d have to keep drying them on my shirt if they didn’t stay out of the rain.
After our second activity of the morning we were in the lodge getting warmed up and having a little hot chocolate/coffee. I left my umbrella outside the main door under an overhang. It was by it’s self, no other umbrellas were around.
By the time we had to go to the next activity it was raining pretty hard. I went to get my umbrella and it was gone. No where to be found. I was livid.
Mostly I was mad because I just couldn’t understand how someone could pick up someone else’s umbrella and use it. Like what exactly did whomever take it think it was doing there? Clearly, someone owned that umbrella.
For the next hour I steamed over my stolen umbrella. When we got back to the lodge for lunch I stood by the window waiting for the poor soul who decided to walk off with my umbrella to return.
And then she came.
It wasn’t a mom, like I expected, it was a kid. A little girl (5th or 6th grade, old enough to know better) was walking along with my umbrella, keeping herself dry. She didn’t have a poncho.
I walked out and approached her. I asked her where she got the umbrella. She said she picked it up out front of the lodge (right where I had left it, of course) when it was raining to keep dry. I said, well you realize that you can’t just pick up any umbrella because you want to keep dry, that umbrella was there for a reason, because the person that left it there was using it. She said well I’m bringing it back, sorry (not exactly the sorry I’d expect from my own children).
Entitled, totally entitled.
She gave the umbrella back to me. I said “I get that you are young but you need to realize that you can’t just take whatever it is you want because you want it” and then I walked away with my umbrella.
The thing is, that right behind her were her troop leaders. Not once did they make any mention of the fact that she had taken the umbrella. They did not make her accountable for her unkind act whatsoever. They didn’t talk to her, they didn’t make her come over and apologize, they said nothing. Nothing.
Honestly I was appalled. Totally and completely appalled.
What is wrong with people that they can’t teach a kid a lesson about what not to do? Of course, all the girls in my troop will most likely never take something that doesn’t belong to them after that incident.
(although I don’t think I could say I was a very good example of how to handle the situation, I was
a little totally obsessed with finding that umbrella, to the point that the girls followed me outside to see what I’d say. That was, admittedly, embarrassing. And truth be known, one of the girls in the troop found the most important detail to tell her dad was her account of my stolen umbrella. Looks like I need to learn to take a chill pill.)